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Thursday, September 08, 2011

Waiting for Changes

I have been in such a brain fog and in such pain and barely able to function so I have not been online at all, not even to check my e-mail. I don't know what has been going on but today I feel better after a month or so. I think that all that has been going on has been either my fibromyalgia or the meds that I have been taking and stopped, or something else but I believe that I will be here more now because I have missed the blogsphere and all my facebook friends too.

Griffin has been going through some changes and some of that he expresses by lashing out and I hate it for him because I think that a great deal of it has to do with the fact that he can't find the right words to use when dealing with emotions. I have started him on Intuniv again and he is now on the 2mg once a day so we haven't seen any difference yet. In the meantime I patiently await a transformation because using rewards doesn't work anymore and taking away privileges doesn't either.

Griffin has all male teachers this year and I think that he really likes that and responds well since he has no other male influences in his life now. My precious little guy has told me that he was bullied at school so I had a meeting with his teachers and the autism specialist for the district to get down to the root of the problem. Griffin let us know that the bully was from last year but he saw him in the hallway this year. It wasn't until later that day while at the psychologist that I found out that the bully's name is Clinton and he is in Griffin classroom but he could not articulate exactly what the other boy said to him.

Maybe what the boy said was not abusive to an NT (us) but is hurtful to Griffin because he doesn't understand or maybe the boy said something and laughed and embarrassed Griffin...funny that I find myself using that as an example because Griffin has told me quite firmly that he doesn't get embarrassed and I wonder if we are on the same page.

I try to not get too angry about the bully situation yet until I find out more from Griffin and  how it is affecting him. He has been lashing out all summer so the hostility that he has is not directly related to the bullying exclusively if at all.

2 comments:

DeeAnn said...

So sad to hear about the bully situation. My heart goes out to you and Griffin. I hope it gets resolved and he can enjoy his school year.

On a happier note, I am glad that you finally posted! I have been wondering about the two of you. I hope you'll continue to feel better. :)

jazzygal said...

I have been wondering how you were too Lora. The blogsphere has missed you too!

Glad to hear that you're feeling a bit better and I hope the bullyin gets sorted , now that everyone knows about it.

xx Jazzy