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Friday, April 08, 2011

He Couldn't Hurt a Flea!

How can anyone think that my child would ever hurt me? I mean like really hurt me as in harm me. That is what my neighbor thinks and says that she worries about me as Griffin gets older. She says that Griffin bullies me sometimes which maybe is what she is seeing is when he is having a meltdown and I know that IF he lashes out then I need to get it under control but he hasn't done that in a long time and she has never seen him do it either.

What she witnessed the other day was at the craft store when he had a meltdown and all he was doing was crying at first and then he hugged her kind of hard but he was attempting calm himself and apparently she was seeing him as being aggressive. He was upset initially because he said that I pushed him and I told him that I was sorry that I didn't remember pushing him that I didn't mean to but he kept saying that I pushed him but before the chaos started he had wanted some candy by the register and I told him no that it wasn't okay and that was when he lost it and told me that I had pushed him. So was he upset over the candy or the pushing? Was he having the meltdown because of how I handled the situation and because I said no or was it because he had felt that his space had been violated by me and he just couldn't handle that (not typical but possible)?

I would like to take this time to thank my dear friend Amy who has taken the time to help me and I just got off the phone with her and didn't even tell her how wonderful she is and how much she means to me...what a friend I am! I LOVE YOU Girl!!!

2 comments:

DeeAnn said...

Sometimes it's hard to handle unsolicited comments and advice. When I am put in this position, I just try to remember that for the most part, people have the best of intentions.

symphonymommy said...

I honestly think that every store should remove those freaking "impulse shelves" at their check outs! They KNOW that every kid is going to want what is right in front of them and even the best kids can have a melt down over being told 'no candy today'
Unsolicited advice can be tough to take I'm sure. It did sound like she was concerned about you (maybe didn't phrase it as discreetly as she could have).
Hang in there!!