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Sunday, June 17, 2007

Happy Father's Day

It's been awhile since my last entry, certainly not because there hasn't been anything going on but mostly because I just haven't felt inclined to do so. Even though I am not depressed anymore I still have some issues with motivation and with getting things done that I need to or usually want to do, I am working on it though. I am pleased to report that I am a very happy camper, much like my sweet lil guy, and that things are looking up in my life and I look forward to each day and appreciate living in the moment once again.

Griffin has been doing wonderfully, he has been having quite the busy summer so far with speech/social group, OT, swim therapy, and his weekly session with Ms. A here at the house. Each therapist has reported that Griffin is paying really good attention and being a good listener, he responds well to their requests and seems to be enjoying the activities that he is participating in. Ms. K the OT who instructs him in swimming has had glowing reports of Griffin's progress and an added bonus is that she works him so hard doing exercises in the water that he is so tired and mellow when he is done. I say that it is a bonus because, as I mentioned before, he used to be overstimulated after his swimming in Anchorage and would be wired for sound but Ms. K knows how to get him to really work hard and it wipes him out.

In the social group which he attends each Monday, Griffin has been working really well with his peers and cooperating with his Speech Path. Ms. T. There are 4 boys in all and she puts 2 together to work as a team and so far Griffin has made excellent progress in this area. His OT and I are working on helping Griffin to hold his writing and eating utensils properly but otherwise he is doing really well in OT especially with cutting and coloring within the lines.

It's Father's Day and Griffin's father is still nowhere to be found but that's okay because we have done well without him thus far, for almost 6 years, so we can make it just fine without his help although it would be nice if he was in Griffin's life and it would be nice if he even met Griffin and knew what an awesome little guy he is. It seems that Griffin is not even aware of not having a father around and I guess that is a blessing in disguise because I wouldn't ever wish on him to feel left out or neglected because his father is not around. Even though Griffin's father has been so irresponsible and has never been in Griffin's life I would never speak ill of him because he is Griffin's dad and it doesn't make him a bad person for being irresponsible. You may not agree with me but this is simply the best way that I have to cope with raising my child on my own and it works much better than bitterness and resentment! When I was with Griffin's dad he was a sweet, kind, and generous man and this is how I choose to remember him and I have no regrets whatsoever.


kristi said...

Good for you Lora. In all the years I was growing up, my Mom never said anything bad about my real dad...I learned how he was for myself. He wasn't a good person.
Glad to hear Griffin is doing well.

gretchen said...

It sounds like you have a really healthy attitude Lora. I hope that someday Griffin and his father will get to know each other- mostly for his father's sake, because I can't imagine a parent not knowing his/her child.

His father is the one missing out- Griffin is not lacking for anything. Not for love, that's for sure! I have to hand it to you Lora- you are a strong woman and a great mom!

Anonymous said...

Hi Lora-glad to hear you are all doing well. I have been off-line for a ood while but I am glad to be reading your blog again. I will try to email you soon-stay cool!!


KC's Blog said...

You have an awesome attitude Lora. Griffin is a super terrific kiddo, he is such a blessing.
I love the pic of Griffin sandwiched just a snoozing away!
You guys have been such a blessing in our lives and we appreciate you two every single second :)

Sam I Am said...

Glad to hear things are going well with Griffin.

I think you are amazing raising him all on your own, and I admire your attitude toward his father. Also, no matter what evolved in the relationship, you still have the blessing of Griffin from it!!!

Peace dear friend!