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Thursday, November 17, 2005

The Diaper Dilemma

Just the other day Griffin woke with a poopy diaper and when I tried to change it he pitched a tantrum. He tried and tried to keep that diaper on crying and screaming with all that he could muster up but I finally got it off. Then he proceeded to cry even harder pleading with me to put poopy diaper back on and I couldn't figure it out for the life of me. Why oh why would he want this diaper back on? Was it a sensory issue or was it that he wanted to have his way no matter what and he just felt like exerting his independence like a typical child of his age?

My little guy was crying as if he had some emotional attachment to this dirty diaper. I finally got him cleaned up and put the soiled diaper outside. Then he wouldn't allow me to put a clean diaper on him while still throwing a tantrum. After about an hour and a half he was standing in the kitchen a urinated in the floor. "That's just great!" I exclaimed, still wondering what the heck I was going to do to get that diaper on him.

I got online to the autism forum asking for help desperately, I made phone calls to my family asking for their suggestions and yet no one really had an answer. After two hours of this tantruming and me trying everything undet the sun to get a clean diaper on him...........Griffin began to show some interest in listening to his Teletubbies cd. So, I told him that if he wanted to listen to it then he had to put on a clean diaper and sure enough he allowed the diaper to be put on without any struggle or defiance. Whoopie! I was so thrilled and exhausted that I had to call up and write to everyone to celebrate Griffin wearing a clean diaper.

Isn't it funny how such simple things can become so complicated? Don't we all take for granted the fact that our children usually allow us to change them so easily and that they typically don't want their poopy diaper back on?

Please feel free to comment on this situation and let me know what your thoughts are about what it could have been that caused him to do this.

1 comment:

marti (standing still for once) said...

Every child, even our kids with autism spectrum disorder, have a currency. Something they like that they will work for, something that will feel like hell if they get it taken away. Keep tabs on these ... they change and fluxuate, but they can be used. Television was calming to my son, too ... esp. the young children's programming on PBS. Very predictable, very soothing, very educational, too!