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Thursday, January 14, 2010

Positive Thinking During Times of Adversity


I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about how some people complain when they have tough times and how they do not take into account that the person they are talking to might just be going through their own stuff and need someone to listen to them as well. I believe in being a good listener no matter what kind of stuff is on my plate because no matter what kind of adversity I am going through I realize that my friends have feelings too and need a shoulder to lean on and an ear to bend. It's important to me to always stay positive and to not complain but to count my blessings regardless of what life is throwing at me. I do not claim to be perfect by no means and I do have my moments but all in all being positive is my main MO. I do not mind when my friends vent or let it all out because that is what I am here for, I pride myself on the fact that I am a good listener.

I love my friends dearly and I purposely only have a few that I truly regard as my close friends. The reason for this is that I have built up a repore with them and through the years have grown to love and trust them with my inner most thoughts and feelings, and in kind they have done the same with me. There are many new friends that I have who I look forward to getting to know and building a friendship with, those in which I have found I have much in common. It is exciting to find new friends especially those who are so different but who still have many of the same feelings and issues that I have.

I am a believer that we meet those who we are supposed to meet, that it all happens for a reason. There are lessons to be learned in every relationship that we have. I am always eager to learn, I am a student of life and always welcome new challenges. I am not afraid of adversity as I have had my share throughout my life and I am sure there will be plenty more. I appreciate the times when there is peace as I breathe it all in and give thanks to the powers that be. Perhaps you think this to be quite mushy and unrealistic but it is truly my philosophy and my outlook on how things should be for me........perhaps it's not for you but it works for me.

I wouldn't be able to make it through life without being positive, I believe that with negativity comes sickness and stress, and this is why I am never ill. Yes, I do have mental illness and a few physical issues but I attribute them to my genes not my attitude. They are simply part of me and something that I have to cope with on a daily basis. I still have a great deal in my favor: I am a student who is making excellent grades, my child is healthy and doing well in school, our animals are well and loving, we are always safe, we have a vehicle that is reliable, we have electricity, water, the Internet, a computer, food, shelter, and the list goes on.....

It is the small and simple things that mean the most and if you ever call me you can rest assured that I am going to listen to you and show you that I genuinely care!

9 comments:

Taz said...

Lovely blog Lora - and even though I haven't known you very long, you are already proving yourself, to be a loving and caring friend. Rest assured that if YOU ever need an ear, i have one you can have any time xx

coolkid said...

lovely post
im glad that your so positive

i try hard to be when life lets me, i cant wait for it all to calm down to get back to those positive feeling and feel good inside again

maddie xx

Petunia said...

A lovely post and refreshing to see such positivity :) I dont' know you very long but know that you are a very welcome friend in our facebook group xxx

Jen said...

Its been lovely getting to know you and your positive attitude and happy ways shine, always :) Jen xx

popsie said...

lovely blog lora, when im out walking every morning i too thank my lucky stars for all we have, because even though children with autism are challenging we learn so much from them and you are right, we meet those we are meant to, im a true believer in that too.x

Andra said...

I love this blog especially the bit about meeting the people who we are meant to meet in this life, I realise that the fb autie group was where I was meant to meet fantastic people who knew what I was going through and could also tell me their stories, I hope I prove to be a good listener and friend to them always. My father has a saying you will meet who is for you and its true. xxx

Jean said...

Lora I LOVE this post...I'm a great believer in fostering positivity too.. Like you say, we all need to vent now and again, but I've come to understand that our challenges are little blessings as they make us stronger, better people . XXX

bonnidette said...

It is so nice to see others using the power of gratitude. In my experience it is the best technique for staying positive. Thank you for sharing this post and letting us into your life.

mani said...

Hello lora
i have read your blog and i appreciate your positivity and an openness towards life.i want to know what are the factors that motivate you to reach to excellence , what's your key for the elment of patience in your life because for me PATIENCE is a big word.will be waiting for your reply :)