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Saturday, January 29, 2011

In Reverse

Why is it when Griffin has success and things work out for him to his advantage he gets upset to the point of having a meltdown? Does anyone else have that going on with their child? It is so damn frustrating because just when I think that I am going to be able to praise Griffin and celebrate with him he turns things around and gets upset sometimes screaming and crying. Just now he had gotten upset because the printer wouldn't work so we had to restart the computer then once it worked he ran through the apartment screaming and ranting that he had to restart the computer again, even though it spit out the paper that he wanted printed.

We had a problem in Speech yesterday, he won the game that he was playing with his Speech Pathologist and he got very upset so I talked to her about it and she said that she had seen it before in kids with autism. She said that it just seemed that their wires were crossed, that they did several different things in reverse like Griffin did. Griffin also gets upset when he finds that there is a connection between the two of them which is easier to understand than the other one.

I just don't get it and would love it if somebody would help me to understand what is going on with my child because I don't know how to react. All I do now is to calm him down and try to get him to focus on the task at hand and to understand that it is good not bad and to keep myself calm too having patience with him. I plan to ask the psychologist about it but that's not until the 9th but I would like to know if anyone has had any experience with that before then.

3 comments:

DeeAnn said...

This isn't much help, but Cody get's upset when people praise him. He sticks his fingers in his ears and talks loudly. Strange, huh?!

Lora, do you think we'll ever understand our children? I seriously don't think it will EVER happen.

SuperLittleMen said...

SOrry I have no pearls of wisdom but I didnt want to just read and run. I don;t know if we will ever understand as I think the explanation - they are wired differently sums it up quite well for me. If only we could climb in their heads and try to understand things from their view point. Its so frustrating, I hope your pyschologist can help x

Melissa H said...

It was explained to me that it's like a runaway freight train. Once their anxiety level is already heightened by the thing that they think is going to go wrong, they just can't put the brakes on and stop it. So, it has to run its course and they have the meltdown, even though the crisis was actually averted. Conor doesn't do it as much now that we have finally (I hope!) found the right med combo, but I still have to just let it ride out when it happens. Hugs.